Freedom from Stuckness

Some four years back Fr. George Kandathil SJ founder of ICTA, Kochi was talking at one of our trainings. He said this to us. If you have just one option - you are a robot; If you have two - you are confused or struggling; If you have three - you have a decision; If you can generate five - you have freedom.

We are in script when we have just one option. We are unable to think differently, feel differently, experience differently, behave differently, reflect differently, act differently ... Movement to freedom happens when we ask ourselves, when we experience stuckness, this one question "How else ... What else ..." When we are stuck we become agitated. We continue harboring the hurt we have experienced. Or, we are wondering what to do about it. Or, we are thinking of giving back. Or we may think, why only me.

Stuckness indicates either exclusion or constancy; Feelings overwhelm thinking; Blocked thinking is experienced. Breaking the loop gives us an opportunity to think; When we can think we can generate options; When we can generate options, we can move toward freedom;

Understanding this process becomes easy, using the structural and functional models of personality in Transactional Analysis. Only one active ego state indicates being in script. When two ego states are active we have confusion - this also indicates exclusion of Adult. When three ego states are active we have a decision. Ability to use all the five functional ego states affords freedom.

I discovered a two way formula to achieve this. Afford freedom and love divinely. It is particularly useful to use this in home settings and in close relationships. Another way is to remove the irritant or cause.

Ajit Karve: taforyouandme@gmail.com